We all are social beings. There's no doubt that very often our success in the workplace and in private life depends on how effectively we can communicate with the others. Some of us, developed much higher skill levels to be able to communicate and connect with others. The others, however, find it difficult to communicate as effectively. Luckily, communication, like any other skill, can be learned and imporoved with proper practice. Here are few tips you can follow to become a better communicator:
1. Listen. Yes, we all think we are great listeners. But very few of us know how to really listen instead of just waiting for our turn to speak. Listening is without a doubt one of the most essential skills. Learn to listen actively, try to picture yourself from speaker point of view. Focus on the speaker fully, without interrupting and follow up with relevant questions to show that you paid attention and heard everything that was said.
2. Focus on building personal rapport first. Try to connect to someone on a personal level in the beginning, and only then as a colleague or a business partner. Finding common interests will more likely result in stronger and longer lasting friendship bonds than if you just connect with someone strictly on a business level.
3. Stay positive and don't dwell on negatives during the conversation. Even if you have different points of views, don't let it make your communication less effective. Show you understand and appreciate everyone's point of view and acknowledge that just because you might not agree on certain topics, you can still discuss them logically without getting personal. Stay away from complaining and criticizing - it can turn people away from you.
4. Watch the body language. Very often non-verbal signals can tell us much more than verbal ones. If the person you're talking to takes a closed pose (crosses hands or legs), doesn't look you in the eyes or just looks distracted, it usually shows that they're just not interested in what you have to say or it's possibly they might have gotten offended by what you had said. There are many body language signs that can help you get a fairly good idea about what the speaker really is trying to tell you, often without even realizing it. Look for these clues as guides to help you during your conversation.
5. Maintain good eye contact and smile. Keeping the eye contact says you’re confident and you can be trusted. Also, make sure to smile and nod to show you're open, friendly and paying attention to what the speaker has to say.
6. Use mirroring. One technique that has been used and shown that it works, is called mirroring. Mirroring is simply mimicking body getstures, tone of voice and other other behavior patterns to build a better rapport. It works on subconscious level and it has been shown that people who mimick others can greatly increase the chances of building a stronger connection. However, you must be careful and be very subtle at using this subtle to use this technique in order not to be obvious and get caught.
8. Ask open ended questions. This simple technique will not only show others that you're enjoying what they have to say, but also interested in learning more about the topic discussed. It also will give the speaker a chance to expand on their point of view which and give you a chance to practice your listening skills at the same time.
Use these tips wherever you have to communicate with people and you’ll notice that it’s easier for you to make contacts with people effectively!
About the author: Melisa Marzett is a blogger and a writer who likes to share her ideas. She enjoys traveling and meeting new people. You can find more works by Melisa here: top guestposting.