Stress and Mental Health
Overwhelm and stress are a recurring theme for fertility, hormone balance, menopause transition patients and SuperWomen of all ages managing career, family, health challenges and more. How do you break the pattern? What do you do when anxiety, fear and overwhelm hit?
Patients and those I do business with often comment on how “zen” I am and how relaxing it must be to be in my profession of Chinese Medicine and wellness. Let me tell you, as much as I completely adore and would not trade my life for a minute, my field—let alone owning and running a company—is not relaxing!
Which brings me to my point: managing stress and cultivating peace in our lives is a choice we make and a set of tools we employ moment to moment, day to day. It accumulates. It becomes a habit. It becomes your nature. Calm is a result. Joy and tranquility are the return on an investment! I am an example of someone who was programmed and trained to worry and I can worry with the best of them…but why? Worry is a completely unproductive energy sapping activity.
Super Secret: Emotion is a body thought-feeling. It’s not a sum of who you are or an accurate accounting of your circumstance. Your mind goes crazy leading you down the fear hole.
Since your anxiety is a BODY feeling, it’s much easier to shift it by moving your body than by using your mind. This is particularly true if you don’t already have a personal meditation or qi gong or yoga practice or other internal practice where you’re learning to shift your mind at will. Think about those Olympians we watched last year. Think they don't have a lot riding on their performance? How about those close-ups of them laser-focused before the start bell. These people have trained their minds and they train their bodies every day. The two go hand in hand.
TIP: If you can’t hit the gym or your favorite class when worry hits, turn on some music and dance, stretch, or take a brisk walk. Close your office door and pretend you’re boxing…anything...just MOVE! And yes, you can laugh at yourself while you’re doing it. Meanwhile, no matter how busy you are, build time into your schedule for dance or exercise. I know for myself, when I tell myself the lie that I don't have time for exercise or meditation, that's when worry sneaks up on me and shortly after, overwhelm is upon me.
In the long run, to develop a consistent sense of peacefulness and a confidence that leverages Life toward the positive, you’ll need to do the inside work on yourself and also learn to manage your mind to choke off worry before it gets its claws into you. But the easy route out of overwhelm and stress is to SHIFT THE BODY so the EMOTION DISLODGES!